“Moms working from home” and “stay-at-home Moms” When I hear those words, I know exactly what it means.
It’s a gift but at the same time, it’s a huge and selfless responsibility.
Your typical day is rarely just “your” day. Moms who work from home or stay-at-home Moms (SAHMs) often revolve their lives around everybody else.
It is something that many selfless mothers do.
It is a sacrifice as well as a duty. To keep a career and maintain a household takes a lot of strength: mentally, physically, and emotionally.
It takes great courage for a person to take on a 24/7 role that is unpaid with constant demands and no vacation, no retirement income, no overtime, and no salary.
However, you get to be with your children all day every day with an unlimited supply of hugs and kisses!
If you work from home while your kids are asleep, you are now a superwoman!
For people who think women who work from home are not doing a real job, you have to think twice.
In this article, we’re going to name reasons why it is difficult to be a stay at home mom and to be a mom who works at home. The demands are great, just as being a career mom who works at an office.
While it is not a competition, usually stay at home moms are looked down upon and not considered to be career women who go to work at an office.
Many people think it’s “not that hard” because you don’ have to leave your house. They believe that you can take breaks, sit on your ass, and watch TV.
And that’s not all… This article will shed some light on why women who work at home and stay at home moms deserve the same respect as other women with different careers.
What does a stay at home mom’s typical day look like?
They get up in the morning and must strategize their approach. Wait a minute, do they wake up before the kids or the baby?
Do they eat right away when they’re hungry? Or be the last one to eat and clean up after the others?
If you’re a stay at home mom and you feel guilty for feeling exhausted, don’t. Feeling fed-up or mad even doesn’t mean you don’t love your children. You are, after all, human.
And let’s talk about that part when you’re having a Zoom meeting with your clients or your supervisor when the baby cries and asks for food or your breastmilk? This is just a normal typical day for stay at home moms who also work at home.
YOU ARE ALLOWED TO FEEL THINGS.
Here are the reasons why stay at home moms and moms who work at home are rockstars:
Stay at home Moms don’t get paid
When you’re a SAHM, you would feel as if the world started revolving without you. It didn’t. It just paused. If you had a career before children and you choose to take care of your children, you should be celebrated. It is a great sacrifice.
Taking care of your entire household is priceless; it’s essentially ten jobs in one with no overtime pay.
If you work at home, at least you do get paid for some of your work after all the enormous juggling and time management you have to do between changing nappies, preparing for dinner, and preparing that month-end sales report.
If you’re a stay-at-home Mom and you have to work at home, that is absolutely divine, not to mention incredibly HARD. You rock!
Working hours around the clock
From the moment you wake up to the moment you shut your eyes, someone always demands something: breakfast, potty, washing up, bedtime stories. For those who have infants, they don’t even own the night because the baby wakes up every 2 hours to be fed and burped or changed.
You wake up to take care of the kids, prepare food, and at the same time you get ready for work – in your home office or in your living room or in any area of your house.
If you work flexible hours then you can work after everyone’s asleep. However, you’d be absolutely tired. If you work more traditional work hours, you have to make meals and still be there for your children between meetings and work activities.
As women, we have become masters of multitasking! Many of us can make a delicious meal and an amazing presentation even if it means doing them back-to-back or simultaneously.
No break time for a SAHM
Yes, you can take naps when your kids take their afternoon naps, but that’s the only time you can wash the dishes, do the laundry, mop the floors, plot the schedules, and so on. Most of the time, you cannot take a nap when they’re awake because kids are not old enough to play and wander around unattended.
Your supposed “break time” from being a Mom is also the time that you have to switch to being a career woman if you work at home.
“Me” time is often hard to come by. No matter how hard it is, give yourself 15-30 minutes of time just for yourself to quiet your mind and ease the stress. Light your favorite scented candle and meditate or do some stretching.
Trust me, this will do wonders for your sanity.
A “real” job
Some people think that stay at home Moms do not have a “real” job. This is really happening, still. And sometimes it comes from working moms, too.
As women who all work in one form or another, we should all be on the same side.
Let’s not focus on how “real” the type of work is. Stay-at-home-Moms work really hard, too. Not getting paid and not getting the same benefits working Moms get, does not make the jobs of SAHM’s less important. They’re just two different jobs with two different functions.
Sometimes, moms who work at home get flak because some people say “it’s not a real job.” The truth is, this is the new norm!
You’re a career woman regardless of where you work. If you don’t work at home, you still have a real job, you maintain a household, and you are a pillar of strength. So, look up and be proud!
Whatever you teach them now, it will be their weapon to help them face the world.
If you are unable to maintain your career inside or outside of the home right now, you can plan to go back to your beloved career when your kids need less special attention and when the time is more appropriate. Knowing this can reduce stress and anxiety. There’s perfect timing for everything.
A tough gig
When you have a master’s degree in microbiology and you see your colleagues on social media advancing in their careers and taking over the world while you’re at home taking care of your 5-month old baby and your 2-year old daughter, you can’t help but think: “What’s next for me?” or “That could’ve been me.”
If you can’t work at home and take care of your kids at the same time, it’s okay!
We all have different paths. It may seem that your world outside your home continues revolving without you but your kids probably really need you right now, much more than you need your career to soar.
To be completely honest, your kids will grow up and they may not need you as much later as they need you now, but their character, their values, and who they are… it will be all you and what you do when they are young.
Being a stay-at-home Mom is a tough gig. Add another responsibility of working from home makes it tougher.
But take comfort in knowing that the only evaluation that matters is that your tiny humans are happy and healthy. You can work and you get to watch them grow.
When your household is in order, your family is happy, and you find peace and purpose, it means you’re doing a bang-up job.