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Relationship Goals – How To Keep The Fire Burning

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A relationship is a two-way street and, as they say, “it takes two to tango.”

Relationships require effort and hard work. It is built on honesty, mutual respect, and, of course, love.

Since Valentine’s day is just around the corner, we thought of creating an article that would match the theme. 

If you want to cheer your partner up and make them feel extra special – not just on Valentine’s day but on a daily basis- you have to read this article until the end.

A relationship is a never-ending work in progress but if you’re with a partner who gets you, it is no problem for both of you to compromise.  Then, it will be a magical journey. 

When you’re in a relationship for a long time, it will not just be about romance and sweeping each other off your feet. 

It will be about respect, friendship, and also boundaries.  But most of all? It’s about compromise and understanding.

When you’re in a long-term relationship, routine can get in the way of fun.  The former fire-burning passion that you had can turn into a daily chore.   This is true, especially when there are other things that need your attention,  such as your career, work, kids, and household.

You love your partner dearly but life can’t revolve around your relationship all the time.  You are also required to fulfill other obligations. 

However, despite all of this, you have to create special memories with your partner because, in the end, it will matter.

When you’re old and gray, you want to look back on the beautiful memories you shared instead of that time you buried yourself at work or cooked a dozen meals. 

I mean that’s important but intimacy should never ever be taken for granted. 

When a plant isn’t cultivated or cared for in a long time, it will die. So will your relationship.

Are you and your partner going through a rough patch? Are fighting and raised voices normal in your household?  Do you want to bring back the old burning passion that you once felt when you first started dating? 

Maybe these tips would help:

  • Make memories together

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Go on a road trip, eat your favorite food, and go on adventures.  It doesn’t have to be anything grand; simple quality time will suffice.  Going on vacations or just a short road trip can take you away from reality, just for a little while, making your lives less mundane.

Talk about your day, your goals, and your visions. Visualize your dreams together and talk about how you can reach them by encouraging and uplifting each other. 

If your partner had a bad day, let them rant, and talk about it while you can be the voice of reason. 

A single meaningful conversation can be in your memories for a lifetime. 

  • Try something new together

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Trying something new together is like taking the first step while holding each other’s hands.

Walking on unfamiliar ground and experiencing both for the first time is such an exciting experience! Try a new hobby together such as a new sport:  scuba diving, cycling, running, meditation, yoga, golf, or something else.

This adds spice to your relationship by adding a whole new dimension. It’s like doing things that your friends do.  This makes sense because your partner is not just your partner, they should also be your friend.

If you share the same interests, this can strengthen your bond. 

  • Never underestimate the power of cuddling

Did you know that cuddling not only has benefits for your emotional health but also for your physical health as well? 

According to an article on WebMD, cuddling eases stress, lowers blood pressure, it also releases the “feel good” hormone oxytocin which makes you feel happier in an instant.

Cuddling is an intimate act.  It may not be sexual but it is a deep part of both you and your partner’s emotions. 

  • Be familiar with love language

Are you familiar with the 5 languages of love? If you’re not you can take a fun quiz to find your love language, as well as your partner’s. 

A lot of couples overlook this fact. People express their feelings in different ways. If you don’t have the same love language as your partner, you should go the extra mile. Because if not, one of you will feel neglected, even if you’re not doing it on purpose.

Look at it this way…

Let’s say that your partner’s love language is giving gifts and yours is giving service. 

This means you show your love by taking care of your partner by cooking meals or maybe giving them a massage. While your partner shows it by giving gifts.  If you don’t reciprocate it with the same love language he or she may feel neglected.

On the other hand, you also might be expecting something he or she does not know how to give when, in fact, from their perspective, they have already given a lot. 

Needless to say, the bottom line is communication which takes us to the next tip.

  • Communicate better

Going back to the previous item about the love language, you can solve issues about how you show your love for each other if you actually have open communication. 

It is important that you know what your partner thinks and feels.  You will only find out when there’s no barrier between you. Now, how can you achieve this?

Give them more attention, unplug from social media.

Maybe you just don’t realize it, but social media takes a toll on relationships.

It is highly addicting and it takes you far away from reality in a negative way.

Plan a social media timeout for the day or at least dedicate only an hour of your day to social media. Work emails are excluded.

For example, if you don’t generally use social media on Sunday, solely dedicate that day to yourself, your family, and your partner. Be present in the moment. 

Never lose the element of surprise.  A surprise is always a fun way to bring back feelings of excitement and reignite the flame. Surprise your partner with a candlelight dinner at home or a simple post-it note in his or her bag so he or she can see it while you are away.

A little effort goes a long way.

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