Afraid of disappointing people? Are you a people-pleaser? Sometimes, disappointing others is a consequence that occurs on your healing and empowerment journey. Instead of being afraid of disappointing people, we can embrace it.
Making yourself a priority and exercising consistent self-care often means saying no to things that you may have said yes to in the not-so-distant past. The need to relax, chill out, and have dedicated “me” time is crucial for health and well-being.
You are your #1 obligation.
Acting in your own best interest is a different way of living and being for many women who are socialized to care for others.
Taking care of yourself and taking care of others are not mutually exclusive concepts. We can do both.
Others in your inner circle may not understand at first. However, give them some credit and give it some time. Most people get over being disappointed pretty quickly. Honestly, you are probably in your feelings more than they are. Those who really love and care for you will understand. If not, do not be afraid to let them go or replace them.
Disappointing others is part of having, communicating, and enforcing your personal boundaries. It is almost inevitable that someone will not be able to use your time and energy as they prefer, but so what? What matters most is how you feel.
When you let go of obligation and embrace your boundaries, you are exercising self-love.
Your boundaries and importantly, their consistent enforcement, can help people understand what is acceptable and what is not, what you are willing to do and what you are not, and where you stand. In addition, boundaries can help prevent future disappointing experiences.
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